Why not CONFIDENT?

Have you ever wondered why some people are more successful than others? They are happier, fulfilled and manage to get the most out of their life? Despite all the lemons life throw at them, they get to make the best lemonade, right?

You see them making their way up to success, everyday, on IG and LinkedIn, getting a new job, or launching a new brand, and celebrating their achievements like no one else exist in the world but them. I am sure you’ve seen at least 2 or 3 examples by now from your feeds. And you keep asking yourself: Why them and not me? 

Well, good news: you are not alone ! And NO there is no secret formula these people are using to achieve their goals overnight, because believe it or not, they were also in your place one day, they were the audience of other people’s success stories, watching and overthinking, just like you and I do now. But then, they realized that one thing can change it all, one thing all these people have in common: CONFIDENCE. 

I know it’s a cliché, but yes, confidence is key, and yes it works like magic! 

What most people get wrong about confidence is its definition. And thanks to Mel Robbins, I came across this definition of confidence that will make it even easier for you to build it. Confidence is simply the willingness to try, try something new that you have never done before, or just try again. And by doing it, you acquire the knowledge with which you build your “I can do that”. Not knowing how to land that job, or write that college application, or learn that new skill, or create that video, or fix that relationship doesn’t make you less confident, it only means that you have to start somewhere and just do it. Because you are not born confident, you become one.

We are so trapped in our head, focusing on all the reasons why things work for others but not us, that we forget it all comes from the inside. We are too overwhelmed by what is happening around us, that we end up disconnecting from who we are, and our abilities to change. While THERE, is WHERE, we need to tap more. If you have this inner voice telling you “you are meant for more”, “you need to quit this job”, “you deserve better”, “you can do it”, then listen to it, don’t shut it down just because someone else’s voice is louder than yours.

Believe in yourself, believe in that voice, because it must be there for a reason. There are many lies we keep telling ourselves, that later become our reality. And these lies are not only dragging us down, but can prevent us from living the life we always dreamed to have, because they stop you and I from exploring endless possibilities of becoming the best versions of ourselves.

So, why don’t we just try to do things different this time? Instead of giving the floor to self-doubt, let’s have the courage to TAKE THE RISK, and WORK TO WIN. Let’s write our success story by TAKING ACTIONS TODAY, and SAY YES to new experiences, even if we have no idea about the how to’s. 

Here are 5 things you need to keep in mind whenever you feel that self-doubt is taking control: 

1. Everybody starts at zero. Accept the fact that there is always a first time for everything, where you are just a beginner. And that’s okay! it’s okay to feel like you have no idea where to start, it is okay to be scared, but take that first step.
2. Bare in mind that the willingness to try means you either will be great at something or terrible at it. And be ready to suck at something you have never done before, because you will never know if you didn’t try.
3. Confidence is not a feeling, it’s a skill that you can develop at any time. 
4. You grow when you do the uncomfortable things, not by staying in your comfort zone, watching and waiting for thing to be perfect.
5. Confidence is forged in fire, not when you are winning.

Yes dear reader, you can already sense it now: it all starts with you ! with your ability to do it even with doubt, fear, and uncertainty, because that’s what being confident looks like, and it looks good on you.

Just saying 🙂

With love,

Sam.